Let’s be honest most of us have never actually arranged a funeral before and the responsibility can be quite horrifying and not a particularly good time. So, here is some useful advice and a guide to help you find the right funeral provider for your family. Did you know that there is no legal requirement to have a funeral at all? The UK law only requires that the death is registered, and the deceased is either cremated in a licensed facility or buried in a suitable plot!
Many British funeral traditions are actually from the Victorian era, which set out quite strict rules concerning how the departed would be mourned. But thankfully the times have changed and now we are finally creating our own mourning traditions, traditions that reflect what makes our family and friends unique.
You get only one chance at this so take your time, do it right, and think about the following points before you make decisions about the farewell and funeral itself:
What Is The Purpose Of The Event?
Any of the following may apply: You are saying a final goodbye, celebrating this person’s life, commending them into God’s care, giving thanks to them and their life, spiritual support, meeting community expectations, expressing love, releasing the soul, gathering together, reflecting on our own mortality, putting on a good show and many, many more reasons.
Who Will Be At The Funeral?
Obviously allowing adequate time to invite all the important and close family members and friends will result in a more satisfying and supportive event. But in today’s hectic world this can and does often take weeks, especially if you are negotiating with an unhelpful ex-partner or a slightly dysfunctional family.
A good solution is to separate the committal from the main farewell event. A private or unattended cremation takes care of the practical aspects with much dignity and respect. And it can be a lot less stressful, minimise absentees and allows time to craft the perfect goodbye.
Choosing The Right Event For The Funeral
Most funerals take place at the local crematorium – familiar to many, with ample parking, lovely grounds and the coffin can be present during the service. But remember – there are no happy memories there, the time is very limited, yours will be one of several funerals on that day and most people would avoid bringing children to this place. So why not take a memorial photo of your loved one or the ashes urn as a focal point, then hold your own style of farewell somewhere you feel relaxed, able to make as much noise as you like.
What Are The Most Important Parts Of A Funeral
This is so personal and different for all concerned. There are many ways to reflect the things that made this person special (without spending more than you should).
For many the coffin itself is a final expression of care and must reflect how special this person was, others take an entirely practical approach. The number of vehicles in the cortege indicates the deceased’s importance and community standing or maybe the quantity and scale of the floral tributes achieves the same thing?
A traditional funeral Mass or Thanksgiving service may be the central event for some, with the wake described as the “best” bit by most of us, but others focus on the scattering or interment of the ashes as the point of closure.
A shared ritual can be moving and comforting – you can employ a professional celebrant (religious, humanist or civil) or devise a service that is truly personal and original.
The Best Funeral Directors
Now that you have a better idea about the kind of farewell that’s right for your family you are equipped to choose the right service provider. This could be a traditional local undertaker to arrange a full service, a direct cremation specialist who will look after the essentials, or something in-between.
Funeral Directors South Wales
A good funeral professional will always want to help you achieve the perfect send-off, but you need to tell them what that looks like! As the farewell ceremony is the most important part of the proceedings, you might want to begin by choosing a celebrant. They work alongside the local funeral firms and will be able to recommend someone who can give you what you want and need.
Funeral Services Cwmbran
V A Peterson are professional funeral directors offering the local community a wide range of affordable funeral services in Cwmbran and throughout the neighbouring areas of Torfaen, South Wales. Our staff are fully qualified Funeral Directors with a wealth of experience in providing bespoke funeral services tailored to your needs. We specialise in the planning of funerals offering a range of multi-faith funeral ceremonies for all members of the local community.